TOO OLD

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Everybody's Uncle,

I have a problem... I'm 15. I was recently asked out ny a 12 yr old and I said yes so we were going out for 2 weeks and the one night he come on the computer and is like i cant go out with you any more my grandma thinks youre too old he still has feelings for me and the same for me. I'm not the type of teenager who only uses guys for sex I think that's what his grandma thinks of me and she only meat me once. What should I do ?

(Too Old)
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Dear Too Old,

Dating and sexual guidelines are set by culture, religion, and family. Generally speaking, all three frown upon, disapprove, or forbid a fifteen-year-old nearing womanhood dating a twelve-year-old pubescent child. I agree with his grandmother. You are too old for him.

My personal standard for sexual activities between males and females identifies such conduct as adult activity, especially where pregnancy is a possibility. When individuals are self-supporting, they become "adults" and EARN the right to make decisions about adult matters. Teenagers living with parents or responsible guardians have an obligation to respect the guidelines set in the household. If you cannot accept the responsibility of a baby, under no circumstances should you be involved in the baby making process.

Here are some points to consider:
Condoms have a 15% failure rate.
Legally, to the best of my knowledge, neither of you have reached the age of consent.
Boys always have "feelings" for girls that provide sex.
Boys ALWAYS brag about sexual conquests. A 15-year-old is a conquest and a trophy for a 12-year-old boy.
Because boys make up stories, remember, "It ain't so until you say it is."

Take some advice from your uncle. Direct more of your attention to education and talk openly to your parents or adults who love you and want the best for you.

Thank you for your honesty.

Here if you need me,
Everybody's Uncle