BISEXUAL TEEN NOT ACCEPTED AT HOME

Dear EU,
   I have a friend who is in need of some help. She is about to turn 17 and her parents do not accept her being a bi-sexual, she is considering moving in with one of her sisters in a state about 1/2 way across the country.  She isn't exactly financially secure and I am seeking help on her behalf, this is relating to the story about the legal age to move-out of the home. She is wondering when the proper age to move out would be.  Please send some info back to me ASAP.
 
Thank you,
Gary Ripper

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Gary,

I am sure that your concern for your friend is genuine and pleased that you reached out for information before involving yourself in a situation that could have legal repercussions.

To the best of my understanding, emancipation of those under 18 years of age requires a hearing before a judge wherein a minor brings evidence of need and feasibility. Please read other similar posts in this section for more information on the LEGAL POSITION of those harboring a minor.

I cannot imagine a judge finding bisexuality a cause for emancipation. Moreover, any person (sisters included) offering harbor to a 16/17 year old BECAUSE of the minor's sexuality should consider counseling before taking any action, especially across state lines where additional laws might come into play.

As a matter of law and/or my best judgement, the correct age to move out is when, and only when, an individual becomes his/her own person both legally and financially - totally self-sufficient (rent, car, food, insurance, etc.) Then, one earns the right to self-definition, including sexual choices. Until then, minors might do well to respect the comfort of parental support, the governing laws, an education, and financial reality.

Gary, how is one's future outlook improved by moving out of a parental home, with no high school diploma, no money, illegally, across state lines, into a household brainless enough to offer such sanctuary? Maybe your parents would be interested? Did you tell them about the "help" you are offering? I doubt it. That would take the maturity of testing your conclusions in the real world. If your theories can't make it in the real world, what makes you think those theories will work for her in that same real world? What kind of a friend would advise her to risk her life when you will not even "risk" your theories?

To your credit, you reached out to your Uncle with some life experience. Are you wise enough to listen?

Sexuality does not trump reality,
Everybody's Uncle