SOUL MATE DIED

Everybody's Uncle:

I was married to the most wonderful man in the world. He restored my faith in humanity. He also showed me what unconditional love was all about. He was such a great teacher for me as in the ways of the world. He had such strong beliefs in me as a person and brought me to greater heights for having been in my life.

Now my problem: My husband of only 3 1/2 years of heaven on this earth passed away in my arms of a massive heart attack 1 1/2 years ago.

I'm only 39 years old and think of myself as an average looking person who has a lot to offer the right one.

I truly am ready to date again in hopes of finding that true soul mate again but every time I go on a date with someone that may be something more than a friend, my heart freezes up.

I don't want to be alone the rest of my life. I would love to have someone share that with me again and to be my best friend so to speak.

Do you think this is something I'll ever get past?

Thank you in advance for your help or suggestions. You can lead my way.

[Heart Freezes]

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Dear Niece,

My condolences for the loss of the loving, teaching and uplifting man that was your inspiration for a few precious years. Solid people are all too rare in our society. I "Knight" those that share, teach and love with the title "Uncle." [Not gender specific.] Please share his enrichments and your personal growth with everyone.

I applaud the strength and maturity you show in treasuring his memory while focusing on your own future. You describe yourself as average but your mindset raises you to extraordinary. Use the wisdom that you acquired to make intelligent assessments of "dates." Set your priorities. Is it better to shop with wise caution or engage prematurely in emotional fog? Is it your heart that freezes, or your subconscious judgement sending a warning signal?

This is the advice I give to all my nieces and nephews:

The Army advised, "Be all that you can be." I suggest that you become a blend of all you admired in your beloved husband and the best of yourself. Keep a smile on your face and a lot of "Uncle" in your heart." Define yourself as clearly as possible. Stay busy and physically fit.

The right man will recognize and respect the person that you have built. He, like you, will have much to offer and a willingness to share, learn, and grow together.

Let judgement prevail over emotion, and you will do well.
Thank you for your confidence.

Here if you need me,

Everybody's Uncle