SISTER-IN-LUST

Dear Everybody’s uncle,

I am married to my wife 5 years and have known my wife’s sister for a little over 5 years. She is 22, I am 36 and my wife 30. She is single and she is very pretty and sexy too. She throws herself on guys but when they come after her she hides…anyway that is not the problem.

She seems to strongly dislike me over the past 1½ years since she has started working before that she was fond of me and actually used to flirt with me by hugging me and touching me. Unknown to my wife we have talked about her sexy body and I told her I love her butt. Also while we danced I have touched her breasts and held her close to me while dancing. She did not resist that, but always encouraged me when I did so. Of late she hates to let me touch her, never respects me with an answer whenI question her and avoids being anywhere near me when I am alone. I also earlier used to hold her hand and pinch her butt and she would enjoy that but now she screams when I touch her.

Fortunately, her sister does not know this has not become aware of either the closeness or the distance the past or the present relationship I have with her sister. Also, I have never flirted or touched anyone else but her sister...to put it in a nut shell, when a woman leads you on you follow...if she was this way from the start I would have not advanced to her like I did…she also used to give me some looks at times and show me parts of her body...and talk things that were sex oriented...now she does not even talk to me a normal conversation. I also have not done anything that has caused this, I just have noticed this since the last one and half years.

Love to have your suggestions, I do love to be the way I was with her at first even it means no flirts or sexy stuff.

Adrin

Adrin,

I remind people all the time that men are Hormones Egos and Babies. You are living proof. Five years ago, your 22 year old sister-in-law was a teenager when you met her; you were just married and over 30 – but you couldn’t keep your hands off her.

Your sister-in-law gets no prize for brilliance. In a world full of hormones gone wild she picks the most dangerous – her sister’s husband. I don’t pretend to understand women but I do know that females get to the eye-scratching anger level when a sister and husband act out. Your position could be called “Moron in the middle.”

Maybe over 5 years she grew up. Maybe more youthful hormones are more appealing. Maybe she realized that she was playing with “fire.”

Maybe you should be glad you never got caught. Maybe you should recall Lorena Bobbitt (handy with knife). Maybe you could consider how disrespectful your conduct is to your wife. Maybe you should realize how pathetic you look, still drooling, after a year and a half of “hands off.”

As for building a relationship: Treat your wife and sister-in-law with the respect each of their positions demand. Play the role of a devoted husband and exercise your hormonal fantasies over a girlie magazine.

Here is a thought: How would you feel if you had a 16 year old daughter flirting with a 30 year old brother-in-law. Wound you still say “...to put it in a nut shell, when a woman leads you on you follow...”?

It’s not that tricky,

Everybody’s Uncle