NOBODY WANTS ME
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hi my name is samantha franks. i just want to know what the legal age to move out in ohio of my mothers house. im 17 and my father is moving to another state and dose'nt want me and my grandparents say they are to old to handle me. my mom is very mentaly abusive. i have had depression for a long time and my mom makes it worse. please help me.
Dear Samantha,
According to Chapter 3127.04, you are a “child” if younger than 18 years of age.
Sorry for your situation. You don’t give me much to go on but I can give you some things to think about.
Why doesn’t your father want you?
If you have a history of criminal, drug, delinquent, rebellious behavior, he may have cause not to want you, but he still has to provide support. If you refuse to attend school, defy home standards, are disrespectful, make demands, or think you have the rights of an adult with expectations of full support due a child – do some thinking.
Why do your grandparents say they are too old to handle you?
At 17 you should not require much “handling.” You are only months from being an adult. At this point you should be an asset to aging grandparents – not someone who must be “handled.” They have no obligation to do anything for you.
Where will you live if you move out?
How will you support yourself? I posted your inquiry unedited. The disregard for spelling and punctuation indicates neither a good student nor an employable individual.
Did you ask your parents if you could move out? If they don’t want you with them and say you can leave – what is the problem?
Is mom really mentally abusive?
Many teens think that they have the right to do whatever they wish and see any restriction as abuse. You fail to give a single example or evidence of mental abuse. School attendance, homework, chores, clean room, curfew, etc. are not abuse. If you believe there is real abuse, report it to the school or authorities – they might offer some guidance.
Are you in clinical depression under professional care or just feel depressed?
Again you provide no information. Did you seek help, or do you think that moving out will magically solve your problem?
It kills me to hear a teenager say she is not wanted. It is essential that kids know they are loved. Parents often fail to be role models for their kids. Society sends mixed messages. Entertainment is filled with vulgarity, sex, drugs, violence, and anti-social role models. I don’t know how depressed you are but I have no doubt that you are confused.
Provide some details and I will try to give more specific suggestions.
Crying for you,
Uncle Jim
