COCAINE UNABLED

My boyfriend confessed that he has been doing cocaine for the past 4 months
everyday and last 2 1/2 years on the weekends. Since he father committed
suicide he slowly got into it.

I have spent everyday with him since last Saturday, he said his goal was to
completely stop. But he wants to just be able to cut down to weekends only
again for now.

The last three days have been successful even though the drug is still in his
possession but I know come the weekend he will do it again.

He doesn't want to get professional help because he is afraid of his name
being on record.

Is this the proper way to completely withdraw? will it bring us to day 1
again when he does it this weekend? Is there such a thing as being able to
quit without professional help?

Monica

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Monica,

You are going to hate this answer, but someone has to give you the simple truth. Based on my life experience, cocaine addicts rarely become fully functional people with or without professional help.

Within my own circle of friends and acquaintances:
Couple in twenties - he, jailed - she, dead of overdose.
Childhood friend - about 30 - dead of overdose
Friend's daughter - about 30 (left 2 children) dead of overdose
Friend's son - about 17, institutionalized
Business associate - dead 45 (left 2 children) - complications from cocaine use
Family member - incapacitated - dead 49 - complications from drugs and alcohol
Best cases - stable but require ongoing support

Attending the above is dealing, stealing, and prostitution.

Ray Charles seemed to have stabilized after his addiction (with professional help), and maybe there are others. In any case, I don't like the odds.

Do yourself a favor. Get as far away from this man as possible. Addicts live in denial. I have heard it all. "I only do it ...recreationally, occasionally, on weekends. I just like to party." Addicts create fantasies to justify their addiction. Don't take my word; check the statistics and the experts.

Families have been bled of assets by robbery, legal expenses, and rehabilitation costs. Babies are born addicted or with addicted parents - they have little chance.

Uncle Jim's opinion:
If police find you in a home with drugs, you could be arrested if the place gets busted. Leave this man. Leave him NOW. Enlist the help of your family, friends, and help groups for support. He is well on the road to self-destruction and will take you with him. Addicts have no loyalty to anything but their habit. You can not help him. He will not cure himself. There is no such thing as a "week end" addict. There are many full time gullible girlfriends. Don't be one! You can curse me now or curse yourself later. He is an addict. He will stay an addict. He will destroy himself. He will destroy you.
 
Everybody's Uncle

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