ABUSIVE ALCOHOLIC DAD

Dear UNCLE!,
 
Im curently in the worst sintuation possible. Im 15 so i cant move out. My dad is a RAGEING alcoholic and my mom just sits and whatches him hit scream and pry apart the household. His main target is me i gues because im different than my sister, shes the more nice looking one who has a crowd and lots of friends you know the cheer captian and such kinda girl and shes 17 and graduateing they have always favored her! so when my dad drinks he runs to me and bullys me not her he sometimes hits me or just gets in my face and absolutly terrifys me and my mom just tells me to shut up and take it and it will be done with but who can just sit there and let this happen. My boyfriend is 18 he dosnt know what to do because i always call him when it happends he cant come pic me up and nor can his mom because his parents work with mine and that would just make a huge mess with our relationship and him and his mom can risk going to jail if they come pick me up to get away form this hell hole called my house. I want to move out and i have plenty of places with good people that are willing to adopt me and take me in because they know what im going through. Would i need to go to court for this or is it possible without my parents having to release me. I have no idea and im running in circles. Ive talked to my psycologist about it but hes talking about foster homes and i dont want to do that i need to be with someone i  know and who is close to me...
 
can you please give me some sort of advice i need your opinion.
 
 
 
thank you,
Miss running in circles
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Circles,

Inquiries like yours are heartbreakers for me. My highest priority is to try to protect my nieces and nephews. When you are “underage” someone has to speak for you. This should be your mom but as long as she is willing to tolerate what goes on, you have little choice but to go to the authorities or tough it out.

One of the most difficult things for me to do is see the truth through the eyes of a 15 year old. Sometimes they exaggerate: sometimes they minimize; most times they simply don’t understand.

You should continue to talk to your psychologist and perhaps a responsible person at school for opinions. There are other options besides foster homes, including family intervention by Child Protective Services and housing with family members. You mention that there are “good people” willing to adopt you. Your parents could allow you to live elsewhere or a court could order it. You are a minor and cannot make that decision for yourself.

Unfortunately, teenage girls tend to think that their boyfriends are the answers to everything – they are not. If you are 15 and your boyfriend is 18 and there is sex in your relationship, he might be facing statutory rape charges. While his parents might have the best of intentions, they have to be cautious. Their son is an adult and you are a minor. If they are clear thinking, they will direct you along LEGAL lines not situations that sanction irresponsible conduct (Like moving into their house). An attorney should be consulted before you take any action.

Here if I can help,

Everybody’s Uncle